Ah, thanks for explaining. I love "curmudgeon-rich room." Turns the whole concept on its head! I was using "curmudgeon" as a stand-in for "too critical," but I think the more positive meanings apply as well. Double-binds do make people grumpy, after all. (Don't have boundaries? Your fault you got invaded. Do have boundaries? Too curmudgeonly!)

Sounds like I need more curmudgeons in my life!