I think you've got it right. Ableism is certainly front and center in the medical school curriculum!

I've been fortunate to know some people where it's easy and safe to be my whole self, including my impairments and my experiences with ableism. Some of them are disabled and others not. I could breathe easier because my therapist made it clear she understood the frustration of being mis-seen, the challenge of creating workarounds and the structural inequalities that makes them necessary.

There are definitely nondisabled people who offer support without strings, without fuss, without needing to score good person points. I've also encountered disabled people deeply invested in performing independence, hyper-competence, and separation from the category of disability.