rant: Why "disability friendly" as access statement is terrible

This is an initial draft -- comments welcome! In particular, I'm addressing "wheelchair friendly." I lack the experience to address sensory friendly.

1. Friendly replaces refined technical standards with a smile and a shrug
2. Friendly scoots around the scary term disability
3. Friendly opens a space for “friendly” intruders bearing advice
4. Friendly hints that one person thought this would be nice, instead of an org or group society committing to inclusion
5. Friendly reflects glory to the organizers while already defining those of us experiencing barriers as unfriendly and unappreciative
6. Friendly invokes a willingness to give and take that attaches to friendship, instead of recognizing disabled people have specific rights to equivalent access
7. Friendly assumes we welcome any sort of new friend because we’re broken/pitiable/can’t make friends on our own
8. Friendly starts a conversation at the emotional level instead of the structural level. If someone advertises a place as “wheelchair friendly” and I don’t find it accessible my request for access is already framed as “unfriendly” hostility