jesse_the_k: Ultra modern white fabric interlaced to create strong weave (interdependence)

Dr Sami Schalk is a disability studies scholar and professor in Gender and Women Studies at my local university. She’s been estranged from her family, which has complicated grieving seven COVID deaths. I was moved by her essay in our state’s queer monthly:

200-word excerpt )

jesse_the_k: White woman w thick glasses, short hair, and smiling eyes looks up (JK 64 optimist)

I've often used eyeglasses to explain how society constructs the lines between "disabled" and "nondisabled." There's almost zero stigma for people who need glasses (in the developed world) -- some people wear them just because they look nice, with plain lenses. On the other hand, using mobility support devices is such a spoiled identity that "she's using that as a crutch" conveys scorn and disdain.

My glasses (in icon) -- which were the best looking and most comfortable I've worn in sixty-one years -- broke 17 days ago. Of course they're no longer made, and my eyeglasses guru reached out to all her distributors and nobody had a pair just laying around.

This really bummed me out: I felt almost as powerless as when my wheelchair breaks. The good news is I have a functional backup pair, so it's not as disabling.

Thanks equally to gentle nudges and desperation, I've been exploring the world of online glasses. (My that sounds dignified. More realistically: I've been obsessively browsing for hours.) Wow howdy they are inexpensive! I doubt they could handle my complicated daily-wear prescription, but I might try them for my single-vision computer/beading distance glasses.


I realized I was extra-vulnerable to failed-AT gloom because I broke my four-year news fast. I'm returning to that boundary. I'm not happy about it. Once I was unhappy about not being able to hike more than 1/4 mile. Now I accept it without thinking.

jesse_the_k: Closeup of my former ACD's deep brown left eye (LUCY focused eyeball)
Today we euthanized* darling Lucy after 15 years together. I am so grateful for the unconditional love she gave us, her clever clowning which made us laugh, her gentle snores which signaled another day survived. She will live on in our hearts, and in my icons.

Memories in Words )

The described pictures below show Lucy the Australian Cattle Dog of my heart. She's a medium-size bitch, one ear pricked, one ear folded, black spectacles around her eyes. When young she had a black and brown muzzle, with large black, brown, merle red, and merle blue patches.

Memories in Photos )

Give your animals and humans one more hug or kind thought or treat tonight.

*(She wasn't acutely ill, but she was rapidly losing control of her bladder, bowels, and rear legs and she was often in pain.)
jesse_the_k: Extreme closeup of dark red blood cells (Blood makes noise)
This is an outstanding essay

The Need to Grieve by Leigh Patel

Patel points out how very difficult grieving is for humans, and how we latch on to other activities as substitutes. Some are harmless — exercise, making a table for friends — and some are vicious — blaming the nearest demonized group.

Patel points a way forward, but one needs the whole thesis (short) to understand. So, go read it
http://www.racialicious.com/?p=29079

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